I’ve been revising a document I wrote over 10 years ago that was originally written to help people cope with stress. I hope that the content helps you to navigate your way through this current period.
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50 tips for self-care
- Do at least one thing you truly enjoy every day
- Create a structure to your day, plan and prepare
- Take time to notice how you’re feeling, breathe into that, soften and release any tension
- Plan ahead and prepare
- Do nothing that you’ll have to lie or feel guilty about
- Learn relaxation techniques – and use them!
- Avoid too much sugar
- Accept others imperfections and practice tolerance, we are all doing our best
- Spend time laughing
- Keep in mind your long-term goals or vision for what you want in your life
- Read books and articles that are helpful and/or uplifting
- Procrastination can be stressful and give you reasons not to trust yourself, be true to yourself, keep your promises to yourself
- Have plenty of moments in your day to pause, check-in with yourself and reset if you need to
- Increase your water intake
- Remember that you can’t control everything in your life, particularly at the moment
- Practise preventative maintenance on your health, home and teeth
- Don’t take things personally
- Learn to be more assertive
- Schedule a realistic day and don’t try to do more than you’re capable of
- Eat healthy snacks between meals
- Learn to say “No thank you” to activities that you don’t have time or energy for
- Take brisk 30-minute walks, or try some other form of exercise like dancing
- Make friends with yourself
- Pat yourself on the back and lavish yourself with praise when you have done well
- Reduce smoking, alcohol and other props
- Stroke a furry animal if you can. Or simply enjoy noticing how different fabrics and surfaces feel. Touch can be a great way to ground yourself
- Notice the good things and the things that are going well
- Try to connect with non-worriers, notice what they are doing differently and cultivate those skills
- Consider how you can help and serve others
- For every one thing that goes wrong, there are 50 or 100 blessings – count them
- Remember that sometimes a problem shared is a problem halved
- Write your thoughts down
- Do one thing at a time
- Avoid gossip and before you say anything, ask yourself if what you say is true? kind? or necessary?
- Accept yourself as you would a friend
- Write a list of people and places you can get help from if you need it
- Ask for help when you need it
- Smile inwardly, imagine taking that smile to all your organs and tissues
- Smile at others when you see them out, say hello without a need for a response
- Reduce your caffeine intake, caffeine exacerbates feeling on edge, worry and anxiety
- Play more, particularly with your children and animals and if you’re alone, connect with your inner child and do something he/she would enjoy
- Learn something different
- Take up juggling, it’s a great way to stop your mind wandering into worry
- Off-load to someone who you know will be calm, helpful and objective
- Have a goal each day that you can achieve
- Appreciate beauty wherever you find it
- Accept that you are doing your best in each moment
- Understand that every moment is an opportunity for new beginnings
- Be kind and gentle with yourself in all ways, including how you talk to yourself
- Do everything more slowly
- Love yourself more and find good ways to show it!
Some questions to keep you in the flow:
· What are the possibilities?
· What have I tried so far?
· What do I want?
· What’s another way of looking at this?
· If I were my best friend what would I say?
· How am I being too hard on myself?
· In what ways am I stronger than I think?
· What are the emotions clouding my judgement?
· If I put it down on paper, what will that look like? How will that help?
· What am I making up about this without all the facts?
· Am I only seeing things in black & white? What are the grey areas that I am not seeing?
· In what way am I taking too much responsibility?
· What positive outcomes could there be?
· What would be one small step forward right now?
This document aims to provide some simple suggestions designed to help you find ease and flow in each moment during these unprecedented times.
Disclaimer – the subjects, thoughts, opinions, and presentation of facts in this document reflect only the author’s views and are not meant to replace any official guidelines or instructions you have been given by any medical practitioner. If you the reader find any unhelpful, then simply ignore them.